promise of lifelong commitmentAhh. Marriage. Love. Liquor.

I don’t believe they go together but, well, hear me out first.

Entering marriage is one of the most serious things that one can get into: the promise of lifelong commitment, of fidelity, of starting a family, of unending love, of taking a vow to cherish someone in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, ‘til death do them part. In short, it’s a no-way-out-kind-of-commitment. (Of course, we do have divorce and in some countries, annulment. So, you do have a way out; just a little harder and expensive).

The point is, right from the very moment you popped the question to your loved one, you knew why you were marrying him or her. And, right from the moment you said “yes,” you already knew what the promise of lifelong commitment or partnership entails. As a true romantic, I’d like to believe that you married or will marry for the right reason – LOVE.

But, the harsh reality is that, most people marry for a variety of reasons like getting pregnant at such a young age, forced by parents, wanting to escape something, etc. And when you marry in Vegas, you may have just married out of a drunken stupor, thus, the inspiration for the title of this post.

Ok. So, what’s really my point in discussing marriage?

Not that it’s June, the marry-est month of the year.

I cannot even claim to be a marriage guru. (Although, I’m really happy to note that I have been blessed with a happy marriage for years.)

My Real Point Is:



In everything that we put forth a promise of lifelong commitment, we have to be truly firm with our goals.

  • What is our aim?
  • What is our reason for entering this partnership?

Same is true when you are doing any kind of business like the MLM business. You need to understand the very core of why you’re doing it in the first place. Once you’ve made that commitment, you have to realize that there will be ups and downs, trials, defeats, failures, and yet, at the end of the day, you ask yourself: why am I here?

And when you go to that safe place of knowing your goals, you persevere, you trod on, and you don’t give up easily.

Unless, you were really, really drunk.

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To Your Success,

Elmar Sandyck
Elmar Sandyck

8 thoughts on “Marry For Love, Not Liquor

  1. Hi Elmar! I found your headline so hilarious but at the same time it gave me goosebumps. It’s because I know a lot of couples who were actually under the influence of alcohol when they got hitched. Some marriages remained to this day successful but some didn’t last long. The successful couples’ formula is teamwork. They worked for their relationship with a similar mindset. And that’s why I totally agree with you that if you work on a goal, you can survive anything.

  2. Hi Elmar,

    I too loved your title. Just shows how important a title is. You certainly nailed it with this one. 🙂

    All partnerships require commitment and hard work regardless of whether it’s a marriage or a business partnership and entering into either lightly is not a great idea.

    It seems many would disagree on both counts! It’s so easy to get divorced and so easy to throw one business partnership in for another that it seems to be more the norm than not but doing this is so damaging for our spirits.

    As a young boy I remember asking my Grandmother how I would know when getting married was the right thing to do and she said to hold on for as long as I possibly could and if the impulse never went away then I would know it was right no matter the outcome.

    I guess what she was saying is that rushing into any partnership was not a good way to go.


  3. Hi Janet,

    Thank you so much for the appreciation. I hope you’re not thinking I was in some kind of drunken stupor myself when I wrote this! 🙂 (Although, noted writer Ernest Hemingway was a man of words and liquor).

    Yes, I really thought it was such a catchy title and I thought of no other alternative when I was thinking about possible titles for the post. I’m glad it got your attention.

    Take care,

  4. Hi Ilka,

    Thank you so much for getting my point. I know it’s quite unexpected but what do they say – if you want people to notice, grab their attention in anyway you see fit. 🙂

    Let’s drink to that! Cheers! 🙂

    Take care,

  5. Hi Grace,

    Definitely having a goal would give us a sense of direction on where to go and what to do. Thanks for the compliment and for stopping by!


  6. Hi Marcus,

    I agree that similar with marriage, engaging in a business partnership should be a well-thought out decision. No need to rush things especially if the reasons for rushing into it are not even remotely close to really envisioning a lifelong commitment. In marriage as in business, the first sign of trouble shouldn’t deter one from persevering and trying to save the relationship. Patience is still key.

    There are a lot of things to consider and your Grandmother has definitely gave you good advice! Thanks for sharing it with us.

    Take care,

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