Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
This article, which appeared in The Guardian, really caught my attention…

“Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

Bronnie Ware, a palliative nurse who has spent years caring for patients in the final 12 weeks of their lives, recorded the 5 most common regrets she heard.

I read this article and it made me think about going after your dreams of financial independence. It made me think of you.

You’ll see why in a moment.
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Here they are the regrets in reverse order of frequency…

  • Number 5: I wish I had let myself be happier.
  • Number 4: I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  • Number 3: I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. Ms. Ware says, “Many people
    suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre
    existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.
  • Number 2: I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  • Number 1: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of
    me.” This was the most common regret of all…Most people had not honoured even a half of their
    dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

What Do These Top 5 Regrets of the Dying Have to Do with Your Success?

Quite a bit actually…

  • Number 5: Are you happy? If not, make a change. Take action. Stop hesitating. Do whatever
    is necessary to let yourself by happy. Give yourself permission to pursue your own happiness.
    Life really is too short.
  • Number 4: I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. Usually this is because we move away
    and we don’t have the time and money to travel and visit old friends.
  • Number 3: Express your feelings. Many of us settle for a mediocre existence rather than become all
    that we are truly capable of becoming. David Thoreau said, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation”.
    If you’re angry about where you are now, go with that feeling. Honor it. Do something about it. That
    anger…that dissatisfaction…is a valid emotion. Don’t stuff it down. Don’t deny it. Do something
    about it.
  • Number 2: I don’t think most people regret working too hard…I think they regret working too hard at
    a job that’s not fulfilling.
  • Number 1: Be true to yourself…not what others expect of you. Worrying about what others think..worry
    about the doubters, the haters…gets in the way of so many dreams.

Look over the list. How many of these regrets will you have?

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To zero regrets,
Elmar

6 thoughts on “Top 5 Regrets of the Dying… and How to Avoid Them

  1. I have these regrets now so I can only imagine what they will be when I am dying, especially the one about I wish I had let my feeling be known more. I am all the time bottling up what I really want to say because I don’t want to make anyone angry namely my husband. So when I read this it really hit home for me thank you so much.

  2. I got some consolation from the realization that I didn’t have all five of these regrets. I was able to honestly say that I do not have at least two or three of these regrets. Still though, most people have some form or regrets. Very few of us have the courage to live a life with no limits. Usually, it’s those highly successful gurus, such as Anthony Robbins or a Will Smith that we can easily identify as having lived a life with not limits. Maybe it’s just a cold choice that we have to make.

  3. One of the greatest lessons I learned from my mentor / personal coach was to stop worrying about the past and future. The past has already happened and having regrets will not change what happened. However you can learn from the past and treat past mistakes as education. We don’t know what will happen in the future, but many of us still expect the worst and worry constantly. We can prepare as best we can for the future, but we can’t predict and it does no good worrying about bad things before they happen. When it comes to real estate, I wish I would have sold some months ago, but I haven’t. I can’t change the fact I have held on to some properties too long, all I can do is do my best to get them ready to sell to make the most money I can. I did not start taking my real estate career serious until I had been in the business 7 years. I cannot kick myself for waiting so long, but I can learn from those mistakes how to act now.

  4. I agree John,

    Very few of us have the courage to live a life with no limits.
    Most of us live the life others expect from us.
    Of course we need to take account of other people, but me may not forget ourselves either.

    Thanks for leaving a comment.

    Elmar

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