Out of the BoxI am so inspired by a book that I am currently reading.

Entitled, “Out of the Box for Life: Being Free Is Just A Choice” by Warren Berland, PH.D., it talks about how we could all get out of the prison walls that we ourselves set up.


Breaking free from the psychological problems that we have is what is needed in order for us to really move on with life.

In the chapter “Getting Out of the Box,” the author presented various stories of how certain people overcame their own boxed life. According to Berland,

Any and all limiting beliefs are a sign of being in the box. When we experience these beliefs, we feel trapped in an image of ourselves as unworthy and unable to do anything about our situation. But in truth, we are simply looking at ourselves, as well as others, through a dark lens that colors everything we see, think, and feel. There is truly no way out of this difficulty until we realize what we are doing. Once we do, we can correct our mistaken perceptions and respond more appropriately to any situation.

Powerless To Change.

I think this is the thing that really makes us live a life inside the box. But in an exercise that I will be sharing with you, you will realize that being in the box is a thing of the past if you only follow these steps:

Step 1: Recognize that you’re in the box.
The acknowledgment that we are really stuck, constricted, limited, and in pain is the first sign of moving on.

Step 2: Put the issue aside.
I agree with the author that it is very difficult to gain clarity and objectivity when we are in the middle of an upset. We should focus on the issue at hand by distancing ourselves from the problem. Taking a step back and see things from an outsider’s perspective.

Step 3: Ask and answer questions to get out of the box.
Here are the sample questions:

  • If I were out of the box right now, what would I be experiencing?
  • How would I be feeling?
  • What would I be doing?
  • What would I be thinking?

Step 4: Now that you are out of the box, look at the issue that was troubling you.
Can you see the difference? Simple. Objectivity.


Because only when we are outside looking in, literally out of the box, that we see things as they really are.


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To Your Success,

Elmar Sandyck
Elmar Sandyck

12 thoughts on “Living A Life Out of the Box

  1. I’ve always liked the expression: get out of the box, and for me this usually meant to stop thinking about a certain solution,to start doing something else, and then return to my issue.

    I’ve never thought about this as a lifestyle, but I see now that it can work. We all get in a rut from time to time, and this may be what we need to start fresh.

  2. Thanks for the compliment Judith and it’s really great to hear from you. I’m glad you’ll try something new and be out of the box. Good luck in your endeavor! 🙂

    Take care,

  3. Hi Dan,

    I have to agree with you. Too often, we are too absorbed with what we are doing that we tend to set some limitations to be on the safe side. I guess, it really is important that we take some time to pause for a moment and re-think, “do we want to continue living a mediocre life”? Thinking outside the box would mean we need to start anew. Thanks for sharing your insights Dan :)!

    Take care,

  4. Hi Nazimwarriach,

    Great to see you here again. Absolutely, staying in the comfort zone will keep us “boxed” forever. Why stay in the box when you have the whole world to see :)!.

    Take care,

  5. Hi Elmar,

    Being in the box feels like a prison for sure and recognizing that are there…again… is where it all begins. Having a useful technique for breaking free is what we need and this is exactly what you have provided in this post.

    Thanks for a practical and workable exercise.


  6. Hi Ilka,

    True enough, our perception of things reflects who we are. As what the pink bat thinking states that problems are just simply unseen solutions waiting for the dots to be connected.For us to see the solution, we need to stop seeing it as a problem. Now that’s what I call out of the box thinking!

    Thanks for sharing the link Ilka, it really is inspiring :).

    Take care,

  7. Hi Marcus,

    Indeed, we need to look at the challenges in life from out of the box, only then can we experience a moment of freedom.

    Thanks for the comment!

    Take care,

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